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Ep 345 total of 345, season 3: Why Boundaries Matter in Sex and Love with Heather Claus aka Nookie. She is a coach, author, and educator. She just released a book (Take No Shit) about how to create better relationships with others and yourself. And yup, it involves boundaries! We discussed sexual and emotional boundaries and the importance of knowing your personal boundaries to protect yourself (and this includes potentially protecting yourself from abuse). We talked about our sexuality and who owns it? Do you own your own sexuality? Or is another enforcing unwanted boundaries on you? Or is it the media, society, or culture that influences you rather than a person enforcing boundaries on you?  We also talked about the shame and guilt that often surrounds sex in the United States (and other parts of the world too, of course). She pointed out that one of the best ways to manipulate people is to try inducing guilt and shame in them. She shared that she doesn't compromise herself in relationships, there might be negotiation, but she doesn't necessarily mean compromise, and how this created lots of backlash and anger when she declared it on social media one time, which is quite interesting.  She created a website and app for Dating Kinky (for kink, love, sex, and those seeking alternative lifestyles) and curiouser.life (which is more mainstream).

Connect with Heather, aka Miss Nookie, a longtime writer/educator in the world of love, sex, romance, and kink, and the founder of Dating Kinky/Curiouser, a website dedicated to fostering connections among its user and providing education.: https://my.curiouser.life/
http://datingkinky.com/
https://twitter.com/DatingKinky
First published on PodNation TV, then YouTube https://youtu.be/mSASIsK5sNg?si=cbVmJ94eiVwLoEu-

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